Notes
Writing about the practical parts
Schedules, records, shared costs and communication. Plainly written, no advice about your relationship, and never legal advice.
Splitting the cost of raising children across two homes
Most shared-expense arrangements fail on scope rather than percentage — on what counts as a shared cost, not on who pays what share of it. A practical way to set one up that survives the second year.
ReadChoosing a custody schedule you can actually run
Alternating weeks, 2-2-3, 2-2-5-5 and 3-4-4-3 compared on the things that decide whether a pattern survives contact with real life — handover count, time away from each parent, and how well it maps to a school week.
ReadWriting a co-parenting message you will not regret in six months
Most co-parenting messages fail for the same few reasons, and all of them are fixable. A practical method — one subject, one ask, no history, and a deliberate gap between writing and sending.
ReadWhat is worth writing down, and what is not
Trying to note everything is its own failure mode — it eats your evenings and buries the handful of things that actually help. A short list of what to keep, and what to let go of entirely.
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Try it for a month
The shared calendar, the messages and the list of costs, in one place you both work from.